Kara Lackey
Is an Extraverted Elephant and is married to the burly bearded guy below - together they have 4 kiddos; a Panda, an Otter, a Meerkat and an Elephant. She is MBTI and MMTIC Certified and majored in Family and Consumer Science at Fresno State. Her happy place consists of: people, (all the people) vulnerable conversations about the messiness of life, eating tacos, and so.many.children running about while Jason BBQ's wearing plaid and lookin' like a lumberjack.
She loves to create tools to help parents and kiddos connect. Ask her anything! She provides TMI while walking with families in the messiness to help parents understand their kiddos.
Jason Lackey
Is a Introverted Meerkat. Once, he shaved his head at home just to avoid small talk with the barber. He is MBTI certified, and his happy place consists of Netflix, naps, music, artsy fartsy things, books, cooking delicious food and an escape hatch for when the romping and craziness of people, children, and animals from Kara's world overflows into his. He is a Pit Master who knows how to smoke amazing meat to fulfill Kara's taco obsession. He also plays the bass like nobody's business.
He is the illustrator of the adorable animals, the big picture and computer guy for Know & Love.
Our Story
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Oh Hey! We're The Lackey Family....
Family differences are messy but we believe that it's in the mess that love is cultivated.
It's in the mess and that our personality differences clash and we misunderstand one another but we choose grace and acceptance in an effort to say I love you.
It's in the mess where we learn how to love and honor each others differences.
We are on the same journey as you with a household of different personality types! So let's be friends...
What works for one kid, may not work for another. What worked for your mom, 30 years ago, may not work today. Each kiddo has a unique brain, with a unique personality and even if they are parented the same, it doesn't mean the parenting techniques are effective for each kiddo.
How to know which techniques would be helpful or not helpful based on their child's unique personality.
How to communicate with your kiddo effectively.
How to connect with your kiddo in a way that they will feel loved.
A perspective on parenting that has proven to bring healing and understanding. If you came into parenthood with your own childhood baggage, you don't have to repeat the same harmful parenting patterns. We'll give you actual tools that will help you understand why you are the way you are and why your kid is the way they are.
How to work through conflict without WW3 starting in your living room.
Understand how your child gets their energy, takes in and processes information and makes decisions.
An understanding of yourself in the context of personality type, especially in relation to your child's personality type, and how these differences may affect how you each prefer to live and relate.
here's why...
So we teach adults:
"Why is it that kids can be raised in the same house, with the same rules, with the same parents and turn out totally different?"
Know & Love is NOT...
A diagnostic tool used to identify ADD, ADHD, anxiety or depression.
A discussion of the needs of children faced with special physical or cognitive challenges. Instead, we focus on the relationship and learning needs of children following typical developmental patterns.
A research-based quiz. Research on children’s personalities is still developing. Our quiz is based on experience. Some research has begun, but more is needed to fully explain the depth and intricacies of personality development in children.
A prediction or an indicator of how your child will behave.
To be used to label any child. Some hear the words “personality type” and associate it with labeling. We want to avoid this. Learning about personal preferences is not to be used to control, demean, inhibit or prevent a variety of learning opportunities, or put a child “in a box.” All children, even teenagers, need to explore all preference options and be given the opportunity to develop in their unique way of being awesome.
FAQ's
Q: Are some personality types better than others?
A: No personality type is better than other types. Each personality type is unique with its own gifting and struggles.
Q: Has personality type theory been scientifically tested?
A: Personality type theory dates back to the early 1900's with psychologist Carl Jung. Since then there has been extensive research to prove its usefulness and accuracy. In fact, some people say “it’s scary how accurate it is.”
Q: Can I predict my child's behavior by knowing their personality?
A: Knowing your kiddo's type cannot predict behavior. All kids can freely choose to behavior in any manner regardless of the personality animal they identify with. We encourage parents to avoid labeling or telling a child "who" they are. These are only suggestions that may help parents understand their child's preferences.
Q: After learning about my child's personality preferences, I feel like a total failure. Is that normal?
A: We believe as parents, we are doing the best we can with the tools we have. There is no such thing as perfect parents. There is also no such thing as a parenting experts. We are all on the same journey of learning how to be parents at the exact same time our children are learning how to be a kids. Like Maya Angelou says, "do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better."
Q: Why does the child have to be 5 in order to know their personality?
A: Your kiddos personality type is still developing. The specific age of personality development has been subject to much debate, but it is believed that personality preferences can start to be identified between the ages of 5-7.
Jason Lackey
Is a Introverted Meerkat. Once, he shaved his head at home just to avoid small talk with the barber. He is MBTI certified, and his happy place consists of Netflix, naps, music, artsy fartsy things, books, cooking delicious food and an escape hatch for when the romping and craziness of people, children, and animals from Kara's world overflows into his. He is a Pit Master who knows how to smoke amazing meat to fulfill Kara's taco obsession. He also plays the bass like nobody's business.
He is the illustrator of the adorable animals, the big picture and computer guy for Know & Love.
Kara Lackey
Is an Extraverted Elephant and is married to the burly bearded guy below - together they have 4 kiddos; a Panda, an Otter, a Meerkat and a 3 year old. She is MBTI and MMTIC Certified and majored in Family and Consumer Science at Fresno State. Her happy place consists of: people, lots of people - all of the people - vulnerable conversations about the messiness of life while eating taocs, children & farm animals romping about & Jason wearing plaid - lookin' like a lumberjack.
She loves to create tools to help parents and kiddos connect. Ask her anything! She loves to share and walk with families through the messiness to help parents understand their kiddos.
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