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Welcome to the Elephant’s friendly, harmonious, and the family-oriented world! Elephants have a preference for extroversion and are fun to be around. Socialization is essential to these kiddos, as their world is others-focused, and they view everyone as a potential friend. They are outgoing and organized with lots of love and empathy for others. They’re sensitive to the needs of others. They care about other people; they want to help them, encourage them, and assist them in solving their problems. They are the kiddos who will plan social events or be the first to participate in activities that involve people - ALL people. Elephants are naturally responsible and try their best to do the right thing in every situation. 

Their world is organized, methodical, and goal-oriented. They enjoy planning, leading, or participating in a variety of social activities. Since relationships are what’s most important to them, conflict and arguments tend to upset them, causing a tremendous amount of anxiety and distress. Elephants tend to be people-pleasers and need adults who can model how to healthily navigate through conflict. Elephants are naturally empathetic and tend to make personal sacrifices for the well-being of others. At times, this characteristic is remarkable; however, they also need to be taught how to use their voice, set boundaries and be respectfully assertive. This kiddo will thrive with healthy family communication, generous amounts of praise, and a sense of emotional safety. Their generous love and concern for people, mixed with their social responsibility, make a powerful combo that can significantly make the world a better (and more harmonious) place. 

ELEPHANT

We think you are an...

ESFJ // ENFJ

outgoing , thoughtful AND lover of people

• Friendly, outgoing and organized.
• Happiest when helping others, planning social events or participating in activities that involve people - ALL of the people.
• Lots of love for family and empathy for others.

Kiddos with this type tend to be:

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15% of kiddos are elephants

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GET THE IN-DEPTH GUIDE TO YOUR KIDDO'S PERSONALITY

Do you ever wish that you could talk to the adult version of your child so they could just TELL YOU what they need? We haven’t figured out time travel yet, but we’ve got the next best thing! We asked adults with the Elephant personality this question and included their responses: “What is one thing you wish your parents would have understood about you?”

SCHOOL & LEARNING

Understanding your Elephant's learning style can aid in their ability to learn and also enhances their future abilities. In this section, we give you tools for their energy, preferred learning environment, instruction style, assignments and activities they will thrive with, and education challenges you may face. 

WAYS TO CONNECT & ENCOURAGE

When we know our kiddos, we learn who they are and how to love them. It's out of this knowing that a positive parent-child relationship is nurtured and developed. In this section, we give you tools to connect to your kiddo's heart in a meaningful way. 

CHALLENGES IN PARENTING & TEACHING

ADVICE FROM ADULT ELEPHANTS

Kiddos are all unique, and you will experience different challenges with each one. In this section, we describe some parenting and teaching challenges that you may face with your Elephant. We give you tools to teach your Elephant how to learn effective ways to get their needs met and develop coping strategies when life feels overwhelming. 

This instant download eBook is packed full of wisdom to help you better understand your child's unique personality. It is nine pages and includes all of the result information you see on this webpage, along with a ton of everyday tools for the following:

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A LOOK Inside the elephant's Brain

EXTROVERTED

STUCTURE

EMPATHETIC

EXTROVERTED

STRUCTURE

EMPATHETIC

These kiddos gain energy by engaging with outside stimuli: people, activities, conversation, etc. They prefer to go and do and need to talk out loud to process their thoughts. You can expect extroverted kiddos to enjoy playing and interacting with friends rather than being alone. 

Decisions are made based on emotions, empathy, and how it will affect other people. They avoid conflict and confrontation because it does not encourage internal harmony. They desire to feel valued and need affirmation first before they can receive any kind of constructive criticism. They tend to see the good in people and are more concerned with maintaining harmonious relationships.

They thrive with plans, lists, and schedules. Creating chore lists, to-do lists, and a plan of the day/ week will help these kiddos thrive within their world. They want to know what is expected and for tasks to be clearly defined. They also desire closure – whether it is finishing a project before starting a new one or closure to a conflict between others. Closure enables them to mentally move on from one thing to the next thing. They appreciate predictability, and last-minute changes tend to frazzle them. They prefer to work hard and then play and typically manage their time well. 

It’s good to know what ingredients make up your kiddo’s personality; however, it’s also helpful to understand how this plays out at home. 

As Elephants receive information into their brain, their primary focus is on maintaining connection within relationships and harmony in the environment. Before making a decision, they will consider what is best for those around them and give little thought to what is best for themselves. This process is manifested in the Elephant’s expression and understanding of how other people feel and their friendliness, warmth, and empathy towards them. Since relational disconnection is distressing, these kiddos tend to be the ones who will give in, agree to or endure an uncomfortable situation to ensure others have peace. They are masters at reading and understanding the emotional cues of others and then at adjusting their behavior accordingly to try and enhance connection. If the environment feels happy, the Elephant feels happy. If the environment feels stressed, the Elephant feels stressed. Why? Because they thrive when they feel connected to others and withdrawal when they feel disunity or disconnection. This is why these kiddos tend to feel responsible for others’ feelings and find it challenging to separate their own emotions from those of others.

To understand this unique brain wiring, here’s an example: Let’s say I, as a mama to an Elephant, had a tough day, and it’s clear that I’m stressed. I withdraw, sigh, huff and puff, and am short with replies. My Elephant, trying to understand what the heck is going on, asks me, “What’s wrong, Mom?”

I respond aggressively, “I’m fine!” as my body language and facial expressions tell a different story. My little Elephant feels the tension and disconnection from me and feels confused. My words are saying I’m fine but my behavior is saying the opposite.

The Elephant’s outside world no longer has a sense of harmony, and it’s evident that I, as her mom, have unexpressed wants and needs that my Elephant is unaware of. Now she’s left with a dilemma. Should she approach me again to analyze my needs, risking further disconnection? Or should she avoid asking me again, assuming that leaving me alone may bring more peace to the environment but keep her in a state of uneasiness?   

Elephant kiddos tend to give conflict more power than it deserves. That’s why Elephants thrive in an emotionally safe home environment - a place where talking through things and discussing feelings are welcomed. They need to maintain connection through conflict and to be assured that everyone is on the same page. Elephants will benefit from adults who are aware of their feelings and know how to effectively navigate through conflict. These kiddos thrive when problems and conflict can be dealt with in a healthy and calm way and when the relational connection is restored as quickly as possible. 

Elephants have deep family bonds and live in tight matriarchal family groups. The herd is led by the oldest and often largest female and consist of 8-100 individuals. When a calf is born, it is raised and protected by the whole herd. 

Elephants are brilliant animals who have an excellent memory. They also display signs of grief, joy, anger, and play.

Elephants are social creatures. They sometimes “hug” by wrapping their trunks together to show love. 

(Real) elephant Facts!

GET THE IN-DEPTH GUIDE TO YOUR KIDDO'S PERSONALITY

Do you ever wish that you could talk to the adult version of your child so they could just TELL YOU what they need? We haven’t figured out time travel yet, but we’ve got the next best thing! We asked adults with the Elephant personality this question and included their responses: “What is one thing you wish your parents would have understood about you?”

SCHOOL & LEARNING

Understanding your Elephant's learning style can aid in their ability to learn and also enhances their future abilities. In this section, we give you tools for their energy, preferred learning environment, instruction style, assignments and activities they will thrive with, and education challenges you may face. 

WAYS TO CONNECT & ENCOURAGE

When we know our kiddos, we learn who they are and how to love them. It's out of this knowing that a positive parent-child relationship is nurtured and developed. In this section, we give you tools to connect to your kiddo's heart in a meaningful way. 

CHALLENGES IN PARENTING & TEACHING

ADVICE FROM ADULT ELEPHANTS

Kiddos are all unique, and you will experience different challenges with each one. In this section, we describe some parenting and teaching challenges that you may face with your Elephant. We give you tools to teach your Elephant how to learn effective ways to get their needs met and develop coping strategies when life feels overwhelming. 

This instant download eBook is packed full of wisdom to help you better understand your child's unique personality. It is nine pages and includes all of the result information you see on this webpage, along with a ton of everyday tools for the following:

Only $12.00!

Buy Now

Only $12.00!

Buy Now

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